Hug a puppy – change your mind.

The last few months have been difficult for all of us at home and at the veterinary hospitals.  Working with our clients out of the building has presented some unique challenges.   Many people are working from home or out of work, and they are flooding the veterinary hospital with cases -- we have been working our butts off.  The veterinary teams are stressed, physically exhausted, and overwhelmed.  We are struggling to stay positive and enjoy our jobs.

When we are faced with so many negative narratives and circumstances, it is difficult to keep our mind positive to love what we do.

 

Enter the puppies!

One very positive thing that is happening during the pandemic is the puppies – so many puppies.  People have gotten new puppies while they have been quarantined at home.  We have seen French bulldogs, an English bulldog, a Boston terrier, several labradoodles, a beagle, a border collie, Pit bulls, two sweet matching pug sisters, and many more.

The puppies make our days better mostly because they are happy, sweet, cute, wiggly and they make us think differently about our jobs.  They remind us that when life is hard, there are always things to look forward to. Puppies are never sad -- they look at the world in such a positive way. 

Happy, successful people also think differently.  If you want to be happy and successful, change your thinking. Humans tend to focus on the negative things that happen in a day and ignore the positive. Puppies see only positive.  Let’s think more like puppies.

How do you change your thinking?

Ask yourself why.  We often ask ourselves why something outside of ourselves happens, but we don’t often explore our own reactions. Why does it bother me when a client complains about the 15-30-minute wait in their car?  Why does it bother me when a client does not take my advice?  Is there another way to think about it?  Asking yourself some questions about your reactions will allow you to learn about your mind.  The more we learn about how we think the more power we have to change it. 

Find something to anchor yourself to.  I learned about the Law of Attraction many years ago and it has served me well.  When you are suffering with a negative mindset you need someone or something to hold on to.  A religion, spiritual practice, mentor, or coach. Someone or something to turn to in your time of need when things feel impossible.  Having that grounding influence will allow you to change your thinking about any situation. If you want to attract more positivity you have to surround yourself with some positive influence.

Slow down or stop to smell the roses.  We are often so wrapped up in our day that we forget to appreciate the little things that we need to appreciate.  The sun on our face or the wind in our hair as we visit a client’s car.   Taking off our mask for a brief moment to kiss the wiggly sweet puppy.  Stop just for a minute to appreciate those things and your negativity will start to wane. 

Take a few lessons from the innocent happy puppies that you see today and indulge in a wiggle and a smile.  You will be a better human for it.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“We sometimes underestimate the influence of little things…” - Charles W. Chesnutt

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Get some stuff done!

We all have many things that we want to get done.  There are short-term and long-term life goals, and then there are the things that you have to get done in order to get a paycheck or keep yourself and your family clothed and fed.  We know the, “have to” things are usually the priority so by the end of the day when we only have half of them done, we become stressed, frustrated, and overwhelmed.  Also, just so tired.  

 

I have been struggling for the past few weeks with getting things done.  My weekly blog, my podcast, my job, my housework, and even my eating and exercise are taking a back seat to my confusion.  My mind is all over the place with ideas of the things that I would like to get done but there are so many things that need doing. What to do next?  When I think about it, I become overwhelmed with all the possibilities. I indulge in the emotion of confusion, causing my brain to shut down and want to grab a snack and watch something really mindless on Netflix.

How do we get out from under the indulgent emotion of confusion in order to take steps towards accomplishing a goal? 

First practice some self-compassion.  Stop beating yourself up over what you did not get done today. When you berate yourself you just create more excuses and allow your brain to believe that you are no good at accomplishing tasks and attaining goals.  This will add to your confusion.

Let go of the thought, “I don’t know”.  Thinking that you don’t know how to do something feels valid but when you think it your brain automatically shuts down.  If your brain shuts down, you are not able to take a step to choose something to do. When you think that you don’t know, ask yourself one question.  What would I do if I did know?  Answer that question and you can start on a plan.

In order to get started and create momentum, choose just one thing to focus on and complete each day.  If you start with one small thing and do it consistently it will begin to become a habit.  You can start small. Ten minutes of reading, exercise or meditation each day consistently will turn into something that you commit to.  Once you have developed a new habit you can expand into another task or take the next step towards your goal. 

When you feel yourself falling into the trap of self-indulgent confusion, understand where that emotion is coming from.  Hold space to feel self-compassion and then force yourself to choose a first step towards your goal.  Even if that first step is not obvious take an action anyway.  With each action you will learn what works and what fails.   If you choose one step at a time, commit to an action consistently, and follow up with a second action, you will eventually reach any goal.

Now, I need to go get something done.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“What is not started today is never finished tomorrow.”
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Here (over) comes the Bride

Today we hosted a wedding in the backyard of our home for a close friend and her family.  This beautiful bride had been planning her wedding for two years, when three months out, a worldwide pandemic hit. 

 Of course, she had “save the date” and shower invitations printed and sent.  She had purchased, flowers, food and favors.  She had chosen bridesmaids and their dresses, shoes, hair and makeup, the photographer, a DJ and her venue.  All things that brides do for the most important day of their life.

 The bride and her fiancé were forced to make a judgement call as to whether they wanted to postpone the wedding until another future date or change the wedding plans to hold a small ceremony keeping their original wedding date.    When the bride asked us if we would host the wedding ceremony in our yard, we were honored to help and excited to have something, anything, to look forward to in our quarantine.

 I was able to talk to the bride about how she envisioned her day and as she was telling me she started to cry.  This was not what she had in mind when she accepted the proposal.  She had the big dress, big venue, big party vision.  She had the hundreds of people dancing the electric slide, large bridal party event in mind.  This was far from what she wanted.

 What do you do when life throws Covid-19 into the middle of your wedding day plans? 

Cry a lot at first, accept that things have changed, then put on your Wonder Woman cape and start to make a new plan.

 Accept that life will throw you curve balls.  When you have a plan, it helps to keep in mind that nothing in life is certain.  A friend of mine has a motto that she follows, “No expectations, no assumptions, no regrets”.  To me this means that if you accept that life is always uncertain, you may be better able to change course when something does go wrong.  Accept that the “new” wedding will be different.

 Don’t “curb your enthusiasm”.  Keep your excitement going for the new plans.  Even though a small wedding ceremony in the back yard of your friend’s house was not your original plan, staying enthusiastic for the revised wedding plans allows for increased creativity and joy for the event.  Allowing yourself to stay excited will help you let go of your previous disappointment.

 This bride’s wedding day today was truly fabulous in every way.  The weather was a perfect sunny 70 degrees.  The beautifully decorated archway set on the edge of the lush green woods was the perfect backdrop for the wedding photos.  The family was healthy and all in attendance as the couple recited their vows. 

 To all of you struggling with disappointment over cancelled plans, follow this bride’s lovely example of overcoming her negative circumstances to create a beautiful dream wedding day. 

 Dr. Julie Cappel

 “We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”– Barbara De Angelis

 
“Life keeps throwing me stones. And I keep finding the diamonds.”– Ana Claudia Antunes

 

Can Bad Times Create Better People?

If you spend any time looking at media, social or otherwise, you may think that the world has gone to hell in a handbasket.  We have spent months in lock down fearing a killer virus that threatens our health and economy.  Then, as soon as we think we have a plan to help control the virus and open the economy, the cities of the United States are being destroyed by violent criminals taking advantage of what should be peaceful protests.  It is easy to think that a crisis always brings out the worst in people.

Actually, the exact opposite is true.  Yes, there are bad eggs, but most people tend to step up and ban together during difficulties.

Rebecca Solnit writes that, “The history of disaster demonstrates that most of us are social animals, hungry for connection, as well as for purpose and meaning.” A truly dire situation, as tragic as it is, “drags us into emergencies that require we act, and act altruistically, bravely, and with initiative in order to survive or save our neighbors, no matter how we vote or what we do for a living.”

I have seen and heard many examples of people stepping up during the pandemic and riots. Neighbors dropping off groceries for their elderly neighbors, people guarding businesses during the riots, and individuals providing financial or emotional support through offerings of coaching support.  Personally, I have been working an abbreviated schedule since the pandemic began, our staff split into two teams each working 3 days per week.   Our schedule has been shorter in hours, but longer in mental and physical effort.  In spite of the challenging circumstances that we find ourselves in, I have experienced great effort from our manager and team, working to create an environment of safety for ourselves and service to our clients and their pets. 

Few clients are critical and impatient, most are generous and understanding to our new policies and procedures.  This week I received the most wonderful thank-you card from a client, that was decorated in stickers – including one of me – thanking me for helping her bird to recover.  Last week we received a large check from one of our clients to help us buy food for multiple lunches. We have also had many deliveries of various foods from appreciative clients and fellow team members.

When crises arise in your life, may you benefit from generous friends and a generous heart.  Always remember that acts of kindness are also good for the people that do them.  Working to develop your generous spirit will create more happiness in you and for you.   

Stay healthy, stay kind and stay generous.

Dr. Julie Cappel

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We are human

Many are good

Some are evil

Value life

Cherish ideas

Protest injustice

Respect property

Love each other

Pray for Peace

Dr. Julie Cappel

  

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

― Martin Luther King Jr.

Focus on your Family Circus

Today is Sunday, Memorial Day weekend and we are over three months into the Covid-19 virus shutdown of my state of Michigan. The United States is cautiously starting to open back up, but we here in Michigan keep having our “Stay at Home” order lengthened.    We work remotely if we are able, shop online, wear masks in public when we have to go out and spend the majority of our time trying to figure out what to do with our time.  Those with young children, bless their hearts, are supremely challenged with the task of keeping up with home schooling and also trying to keep a bunch of young people contained in their homes or if the weather permits in their yard.  My children are grown, so I do not have this struggle, but God bless those who do. 

As tempers flare and political divides grow deeper it may become difficult to maintain our mental, physical and emotional health. We are dealing with so many emotions that need to be processed in a healthy way in order for us to thrive. Changing our outlook to focus on family and normalcy is a way to process the emotion.  We have the ability to plan for our day, future gatherings with family and friends, and find things to enjoy in the present routine. 

Try playing family trivia on Zoom every Sunday. 

My favorite thing that has come out of the pandemic is Sunday afternoon trivia games with my family.  We started weeks ago and have maintained this new zoom call tradition each week. The participants are my husband and I, my parents, my daughter and son-in-law (Texas) my son (New York) and my sister, her husband and son (New Mexico.)   The stay at home orders have kept us from traveling but has allowed us to create a new relationship each week on the call.  The calls give us time to see each other and catch up on the week’s events.  There are many laughs as the generations struggle to navigate the trivia and the technology.  

Plan video calls regularly to connect with friends and family. The calls will provide a positive focus for your days and weeks. Remembering that no one is going through this alone will help you to feel part of a community to decrease your loneliness.

Maintain your daily routine as normally as possible.  If you continue to make your life feel as normal as possible it will help your brain stay positive.  Get up at your normal time and go through your daily routine as it was before the pandemic.  Staying at home will require that you adjust your routine, but you can try to create as much normalcy as possible for your day.  Be purposeful in your planning and enjoy the free time.  Maintaining your normal habits will help you to develop a more positive outlook and a healthy routine.  

Taking care of yourself by creating a routine and spending time with your family (and friends) will allow you to process and create better emotions as you move through the pandemic. 

Enjoy your family circus.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.” –Michael J. Fox

Joy in the time of Covid-19

 Today was a joyful day!

It was a joyful day because my very good friend was finally released from the hospital after 7+ weeks suffering with Covid-19.  She was in ICU for many of those weeks, and on a ventilator twice!  By some great miracle and the grace of God she survived to return home to her husband, two sons, and very happy Golden Retrievers.  Today a large group of friends got together in a parking lot and formed a parade to drive by her house with signs, honking horns, and balloons.  She was sitting in a lawn chair in her driveway watching us all go by.  It was such a great celebration of life and friendship.  Seeing her and my other friends, that I have not seen in months, was a huge blessing.  A truly joyful day.

In this time of our nation’s quarantine lockdown, there may seem very little to be joyful about.   Many people have had their lives and livelihoods slowly stripped away and destroyed by rules that seem to make very little common sense.  When faced with the choice of working with risk of possible illness from Covid-19 and staying home with the guarantee of bankruptcy, we humans need something to feel joyful about. 

 

So how do we create more joy?

Realize that you have control of your mind.  When faced with so many negative seemingly impossible circumstances in your life, remember that joy is a choice that you can make.  You may really have to dig at times to see it, but there are always things to be thankful for.  For example, today I will meet with my family over zoom to play trivia.  For a couple of hours, we will get together, talk, and compete in an epic trivia battle from all corners of the United States.  It will break up an otherwise long rainy day of quarantine and allow me to see my family.  My adult children will make fun of me and my parents when we get a wrong answer, but seeing our stupidity bring them joy is also joyful for me.

Continue to look for silver linings.  With every challenge comes opportunity for growth.  Think of yourself as a work in progress and look for ways to rise to the challenge.  If you work on choosing growth over defeat, you can create more joy for your life over time.  It may feel like a big effort but challenging yourself daily to find joy and growth will ultimately create a more fulfilling life. I am joyful that I currently have a job and so does my team.  All of us are making less money than we used to – our hands have been tied by our state’s restrictions – but we can continue to work within those restrictions and will not starve.  We have banned together to become more and more creative in our work to create support for our community and our team.  We can choose to feel joy in our work, even if the days are long and exhausting.

Look around yourself right now and choose something to feel joyful about.  As you practice the skill of looking for joy it will become more natural.  Practicing gratitude in the midst of negative circumstance will allow you to create more joy. 

What are you joyful about today?  Please let me know in the comments!

Dr. Julie Cappel

If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment. – Carlos Santana

Find joy in everything you choose to do.  Every job, relationship, home… It’s your responsibility to love it or change it.  – Chuck Palahniuk

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Give to make yourself happy.

Today is Mother’s Day.  The day that we agree to honor mothers and grandmothers. Why do we celebrate Mothers?  Because of all they give.

But mothers also receive something from all of the giving that they do – happiness.   Being a mother is one of the things that brings the most joy to my life.  Giving of yourself and helping others is one of the easiest ways to increase your own happiness.  Mothers give of themselves and in so doing create more happiness.  Happiness often comes as a byproduct of generosity, but you don’t have to be a mother to benefit from generosity.

When you are actively involved with helping others, you will indirectly create more happiness for your life.  Doing things for others – your children, your parents, your friends and even your pets -- makes you happier than spending time and energy on yourself.  There is a strong link between kindness, generosity, and happiness.

With increased giving comes increased happiness.

A study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies asked one group of participants to recall the last time they spent money on themselves, and another group to recall the last time they spent money on someone else.  With each question they completed a scale that measured how happy they felt with the spending.  The participants were then given a small sum of money and two choices.  They could spend it on themselves or on someone else.  They were told to choose whatever would make them happiest.  Their choice was kept anonymous, so they did not feel pressure to give to others. The research found that people feel overall happier when they were asked to remember a time when they gave. The happier they felt when being generous, the more likely they were to want to spend on others again.  Generosity creates a positive feedback loop.  Giving encourages more giving.

If you do one kind act that makes you feel happy, you will be more likely to spend time doing more acts of kindness in order to feel more happiness.

So, whether you are a mother, grandmother, child, or friend, give yourself the gift of giving.  Be generous to others and your life will be better for it.  Create a culture of kindness and give to help yourself feel happier.

And don’t forget to honor your mother today.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“Being happy and being kind are two things we often strive to be in life. ... Doing good deeds can bring untold amounts of happiness; both for the recipient and the benefactor. Nobody loses when it comes to kindness.” – Corey Harnish

“When you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.” —Mitch Albom

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Create a positivity habit

In the face of any challenge there is always room for growth. That is the message that I want to share with you this week – challenging yourself to create personal growth by adopting a positive mindset. But what if you are finding things difficult and are feeling discouraged?   Your friends seem to have it all together -- posting on Instagram and other social media platforms how great they are doing in quarantine.  They are starting new hobbies, improving skills, and just overall enjoying their newly found free time.  What if you don’t feel that way and you are suffering?  How can you deal with their positivity when you are feeling anything but positive?

I had one of those discouraging days last week.  I am the only doctor scheduled at my veterinary hospital two to three days a week because of changes we made to our schedule in the face of the pandemic.  When we have a particularly busy day, I end up exhausted.  Tuesday was that day.  A state shut down has not really kept people home.  Add to that the fact that we are not bringing clients into the building and we are wearing masks as we work adds to the stress and physical effort needed to care for the patients.  (The emergency nail trim appointments are my favorites.)  Tuesday evening, when I finally got home from work after a grueling day, I had a little melt down.  My husband had to listen to me as I cried and told him how difficult this whole quarantine-working-life is.  My brain was tired and could see nothing but gloom and doom.  Once I had a little pity party, I was able to let it go and start to work to change my mindset.

If you are having difficulty right now, cut yourself some slack.  It is okay to feel sad and grieve the things that you have lost.  The life that you thought you would have this spring turned into something else entirely.  Once you allow yourself a little compassion you will be better equipped to start working towards a more positive mindset.

If you want to be happier, you absolutely can.   Shaun Achor, author of “The Happiness Advantage” says that working to become happy will cause you to be more successful in work and life.  So, working on your mind and creating a positivity habit will allow you to handle the current situation better and anything that comes in the future. It is all up to you to start working towards your new positive thinking habit. My husband has studied leadership for the past 30 years and he reminded me yesterday of something he learned called the 21/90 rule.  The idea behind this rule is that it takes about twenty-one days to adopt a new habit and ninety days to solidify it. 

If you want to become more positive in life, make positive thinking a habit. 

Choose a time of day to work on your brain and teach it positive thoughts.  I like to work on my thoughts first thing in the morning when my brain is fresh and nothing difficult has happened to me yet.  I can write down feelings of gratitude from the day before and thoughts to get my mind in a positive place.  If you set aside a little time every day for 21 days, you will start to change your negative thoughts to more positive optimistic thoughts.  

Start simple.  If your brain loves pessimism, it may take a while to become fully optimistic.  If you decide to practice one positive thought per day for a consistent 21 days, you will start to feel more optimism.

Remind yourself to be happy throughout the day.  Post a positive saying or mantra where you can easily read it during your day.  Practice repeating your positive thoughts when you feel that you are getting negative or stressed. 

Allow for mistakes in your thinking.  Remember that your brain loves drama and dislikes change.  That’s why it is so much easier to continue thinking negative thoughts than positive ones.  If you have a bad day or need to be sad allow yourself to go there.  Once you process that negative emotion, do some work to get back into your positive thinking.

Try using a “but” statement.  When you think or say something negative, use the word “but” to interrupt yourself, then change the end of the statement to something better.  Say something like, “Today was a difficult day, but I handled it very well.”

Allow yourself grace when you are feeling down but start today to create a new habit.  Use the next twenty-one days to start your new mindset and positivity habit.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.”– Lee Iacocca

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”– Mary Anne Radmacher

“Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it.” – Jacques Prevert

Concerned not consumed.

Today is Sunday and we are over 6 weeks into the Corona virus shutdown of Michigan, the United States and much of the world.  This new way of life has definitely affected the way I see almost everything.  Today we had a Zoom call with my family to play team trivia.  It is something that we started a few weeks ago to get the family together to virtually visit, as we are all quarantined in our different states.  This is the highlight of my week.  I love seeing my adult children, my parents, and my sister’s family all gathered on the screen of my laptop - if only for an hour or two.   

I had so many plans for April and May, as so many of us did.   I planned to visit New York City to see my son and get a tour of his apartment and the area that he loves in Brooklyn.  I planned to visit Texas to see my daughter and her husband perform with Fort Worth Opera.  I have my opera tickets for their shows which were supposed to be this week.  We have all had things that have been postponed or cancelled which is disappointing. I have concerns that this shutdown will drag on and I will continue to miss in-person visits with all of my family. 

In this uncertain environment, we all have concerns about our families’ safety and health. We have concerns about our veterinary team’s safety, health and financial stability.  We have concerns about the terrible economy and all of us regaining the ability to earn a living.  

We can have concerns, but we do not have to be consumed by it all.

When worry starts to consume your thoughts, think about scheduling a specific time to process those worries and thoughts.  All the “what if” scenarios can be constrained to a short period of time. This will allow you to think about your situation, process the thoughts, and then move on with the rest of your day.  Practice writing out a thought download to help you work the through the thoughts that are threatening to consume you. If concerns come up throughout the day, write them down then resolve to think about them during your “worry time”.  Restraining your worries and concerns to a specific time of day will allow you to process them and live in the moment.

Focus on the positive.  As you move throughout your day, try to notice the little things that are going well for you.  Appreciating what is going well in your life and looking for the positive, will allow your brain to let go of the worry.  Practice gratitude and pass some of your positive energy along to others in your life allowing them to share in your positive energy. Be mindful of your concerns.

Acknowledging your concerns about the virus and your family is normal will allow you to take the appropriate precautions to keep them safe.  When you feel that you are being consumed with worry practice scheduling thought exercises, look for positivity, and practice mindfulness.  Allow yourself to move from consumed to concerned.

Remaining strong in the face of this pandemic does not mean that we must ignore our emotions.  We need to be able to allow ourselves to feel our concerns without allowing them to ruin us.  

Resolve to embrace your concerns without letting your worries consume you. 

Dr. Julie Cappel

“There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.” – Harold Stephen

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Time to Move Forward

As we all continue to participate in a worldwide lockdown, it becomes difficult to see what our future will look like.  We spend our days at home with our families, or some are alone, wondering when this will end and what will our lives look like when it is done. 

I have been wondering this myself.   What will mine and my children’s lives look like after Covid-19? 

All of our lives have changed dramatically; entertainment has changed, exercise has changed, travel has changed, and jobs have either been lost or damaged.  I am fortunate that I am considered one of the essential workers.   Veterinarians are considered essential; however, we have less exposure than many in human health care or grocery store workers, because we can keep clients out of our buildings.  We do have damaged businesses because we are limited on what we are allowed to do, so our workers’ salaries and thus our businesses are cut significantly.   

I think most of us have been working so hard to keep busy - to keep our minds off of our troubles - that we have completely ignored the fact that we have been given a tremendous gift.  The gift of time.  We have been given time to think about things differently.  We have been giving time to set goals that we have previously ignored because we did not have time to work on them. 

Let’s think about what we want when we come out of this situation.

What we do not want, is to let fear and uncertainty keep us from doing something constructive and amazing with our time. Do not stop making plans.  This is precisely when we need to keep planning for the future.  Creating a plan helps your brain to stay in a place of constructive thinking and not destructive thinking.

What we want, is to practice loving ourselves first.  It is hard to get motivated or take any action until you choose to care for yourself.  Start with understanding exactly what you need and then getting those needs met.  Eat right, exercise, meditate, and reach out for help if you are struggling.  Make the effort to have compassion and love for yourself as you would a close friend or family member.  Once you are treating yourself well, you will be capable of stepping out of your comfort zone to move forward with new plans and goals.

What we want is to think about new goals.  Take a class, learn a new skill, write a journal, or create some art.   Do things that you have not had the time or energy to do before. I have started taking voice lessons, something that I have been wanting to do for years.  Lucky for me, my daughter is a professional opera singer and is exactly positioned to be my perfect teacher.  With more time off, she is in the position to take new students, and I am in the position to hire a voice teacher.

So, take advantage of this time that you have been offered to set some priorities.  If you are feeling overwhelmed by the things that you want to do, decide what is most important to you.  You can write a list of 10 goals and then pair it down to three.  Then choose the one goal that is most important to you and start your plan.  Decide on all the tasks that you need to do to accomplish the prioritized goal.  Once you have your steps in order, schedule time to accomplish each step until you have accomplished the goal.  Do not move on to the next goal until you finish the first.

Think about how you want to emerge from your quarantine and who you want to be. 

Then take some time and action to move forward.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli

“Change has to come for life to struggle forward.” ― Helen Hollick

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