Stepping Out

These past few years were big for me; I changed my career in a significant way.  I didn’t give up veterinary medicine -- no -- I am still and always will be a practicing veterinarian. I did add some new skills to my bag of veterinary tricks.  I took and completed a course in life coaching and became certified as a life coach.  I began chasing this dream about five years ago, so completing it in 2019 was a big accomplishment.

I have always studied leadership and have enjoyed working with people on problem solving.  Working as a hospital owner for over 20 years, I found many opportunities to be a leader and help others lead, but I saw a need in our veterinary community for someone to coach veterinarians through the struggle of stress, anxiety, and burnout.  I developed a blog, podcast and several presentations focused on helping veterinary professionals. 

I have presented at various veterinary meetings and joined a life coaching school that taught me the skills to help veterinarians understand their brains, and provided them the skills to manage their minds around the challenges that we all face. It has been a joyous, often difficult, and worthwhile journey.  Coaching veterinarians is amazing, and I love helping people discover themselves and challenge their status quo.

Did you know that people laugh when you tell them you are a life coach? Why did I choose to face my fear of ridicule and doubt from my peers?  Why do it?

Stepping out of your comfort zone will open doors for you.  Each new skill or experience will build on the last, and things that you never thought possible will start to happen for you.  You will meet new people that may help you reach the next step on your journey and open you up for the next opportunity.  Staying comfortable and living small will feel good in the moment, but will keep you from new experiences and interesting encounters. My coaching has led me to so many interesting people and experiences.

Stepping out of your comfort zone will sharpen your existing skills.  If you embrace the lessons that others teach you, the skills that you previously had will evolve and improve.  When I listen to another doctor in my practice tell me about something that they learned at a continuing education event, I open myself up to the possibility of learning a better way.  My skills will be improved because I am not afraid to try to do something differently. I become a better veterinarian because I stepped out of my comfort zone.

Stepping out of your comfort zone will make you a better person.  When you start to challenge yourself, you will begin to awaken parts of you that you never knew existed.  You will discover that you have many strengths that you never knew you possessed.  It is much easier to keep control over the known things in your life by living small; however, stepping into a new experience will open you up to opportunities and discoveries about your strengths and weaknesses.  Trying new things allows you to understand yourself better and builds character.

So, try something new this year that scares you a little.  Try to stretch and challenge yourself in small ways.  The more you try it, the easier it will get.  You will feel fear but push through the fear and work towards growth.  You will discover things about yourself that you previously did not know and become a more authentic you.  You may just help others in the process.

Julie Cappel

“There are no great limits to growth because there are no limits of human intelligence, imagination, and wonder.”  - Ronald Reagan

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New Year - New Goals

As we all head towards 2020, we start to think about how we can become better people and do better in the new year.  We look back on what we have done in the past twelve months and wonder if we accomplished enough.  Did we spend our time doing important things or did we simply let time pass by?

I always make resolutions and set goals when the new year comes around, but I do not always accomplish everything that I set out to do.  Last year I set five big goals and accomplished four out of the five.  That is pretty great!  The reason that I was able to accomplish most of my goals is because I was very specific about what it was that I wanted to do. I set a time frame to get each one done and made a plan to execute them.   

Why did I not do all five?  Probably because I was afraid of what it would take to do the fifth.  The effort, the work, and the mental strength it would take to get out of my way and actually get it done.  Four out of five is not bad, but maybe this year I can do better.

Is there something that you have always wanted to do and have not yet done?  Maybe this is your year.

Why is it important to set goals and make resolutions? 

Our brain needs constant oversite and direction.  Without conscious thinking and planning, our brain will seek the path of least resistance.  We will stay in our comfort zone because dreaming big and setting big goals scares us a little.  Try writing some big goals down and observe how your brain begins to argue with you. You will think of all the ways that the goal is impossible and every way that you will likely fail.  If you do not take control of those negative thoughts, you will slip into complacency.   

If we do not set big goals, we will live our life in the past.  We will do the same things over and over again without trying anything new.  It is so much easier to continue to do things that you have already accomplished, because you know that you can achieve them.  Setting goals that you feel are out of your reach -- making you a little uncomfortable -- will challenge you to move forward and change.  If you want to change your past, you must plan for your future and setting goals is the way to do it.

How do we plan goals in a way that ensures we will actually accomplish the goals that we set?

·      Dream big. Write down all the things that you want to do until it scares you.

·      Choose the top three to five priorities for this year, so you can constrain yourself and focus on those specific goals.

·      Write down the steps you will need to take to accomplish them. If you do not know how to do something, schedule time to research or get help.

·      Add the steps to your calendar and allow time to work on them.

·      Follow through on your plans and don’t let yourself down by quitting.

The last step is the most difficult and most important.  Quitting feels good, because of the relief that your brain feels in the moment.  Not quitting, and actually accomplishing a goal, will feel so much better in the long term. Quitting feels good only in the short term. Do not quit!

Set some big scary goals for yourself this year and change your life!

You will be glad you did.

Julie Cappel

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” —Andrew Carnegie

“Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.” —Pablo Picasso

Outrageous Generosity

The holidays are the perfect time think about the concept of generosity.  I have always thought that giving things to others is way more fun than receiving things.  For me, that has always been true, but what exactly does it mean to be generous, and what does it really do for us?

According to Psychology Today, “Generosity is the act of being kind, selfless, and giving to others. Despite being an act that is done to benefit others' well-being, generosity also paradoxically increases our well-being. So being generous is a fantastic way to improve your mental health and well-being.”

This week I learned that my mom committed an act of outrageous generosity.  My parents spend their winter months in Florida.  This year my mother discovered a school in the area that was in dire need of school supplies.  The school is in a struggling area of Florida where the families do the best they can for the students, but there are things that they just cannot afford.  My mom stays in a community nearby, so she sees the school and the children when she drives back and forth on her way to the store. 

My mother is a very generous person, but she is not the type that likes to be the center of attention.  It turns out that she had been thinking about donating to this school for weeks and didn’t follow through.  When my sister Jill arrived to visit, my mother shared the idea with her.  My sister and I are much less attention adverse, so Jill jumped right on the idea and encouraged my mother to go shopping to buy the school supplies.  They went to The Dollar Tree and Walmart and bought hundreds of dollars’ worth of crayons, pencils, paper, glue, scissors, paper towel, hand sanitizer, and desk wipes.   Mom then called the school and asked if they could drop off the supplies to the principal. The principal was most surprised at the volume of things that my mother and sister brought to the school.  They had never seen such generosity from a stranger randomly donating to their little school. The principal wrote a beautiful note thanking my mother for her outrageous generosity.

Who gets the most out of this encounter?  My mom and sister who carried out the donation.   When you give, it goes a long way into improving your own mental health. Giving brings you feelings of accomplishment, lowers stress and brings joy to your life. Generosity also has a ripple effect.  When someone else sees you doing something generous, it makes them more likely to do something generous too; therefore, this increases everyone’s wellbeing.

How can we learn to be outrageously generous?

It is a natural part of most people’s makeup to be generous and kind; however, we can override our generosity gene by thinking too much. The thinking part of our brain can create a fear that by giving, we may not have enough; yet, the opposite is true.  Working to overcome our scarcity mindset is the first step in becoming a more generous person and thus happier.

Developing positive thinking skills such as gratitude will help us to become more generous. The happier and more blessed we feel, the more likely we are to give to others.  If you are open to becoming more generous, you will improve your own feelings of self-worth, joy and happiness.

Think about being outrageously generous this holiday season.  Focus on giving in ways to make a positive impact on someone else’s life.  The more you give of yourself, the better you will feel.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“For it is in giving that we receive.”
― St. Francis of Assisi

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Episode #49 - Learning about Body Language with Karlene Belyea

On this episode of the podcast Julie talks to Karlene Belyea, her friend and the Chief Culture Officer of Mission Veterinary Partners.  Karlene teaches you to read others' body language and also use your own, to relate better in business and social situations. 

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