...but our job IS sad!

  

This week I had the awesome privilege to spend an evening speaking in front of a group of veterinarians and veterinary support professionals speaking about stress management and compassion fatigue.  My presentation revolved around understanding why we feel stress and what we can do to manage it to feel better.  Stress is inevitable and is something that we cannot - and really do not want to - fully escape.  Our job involves many complicated situations and our stress response is often necessary to help us to perform our best work.  When a critical emergency comes into the hospital, the primitive part of our brain causes stress to keep us alert; making fast and solid decisions.  In those situations, stress is a great tool.  When stress is allowed to set up camp and live in our bodies for extended periods of time, it becomes dangerous to our mental and physical health.

When I talked to the group about our job being totally amazing while also being very hard, I had some doubters present in the audience.  People that had a difficult time wrapping their mind around the fact that I said, “Stress can be good.” and “We can choose to think better thoughts, to change how we feel about our day.”.  One person was particularly challenged by my words.  She stopped me several times to ask clarifying questions and became a bit annoyed with my answers.  She said more than once, “…but our job IS sad!”  as if it were a fact. 

Here is where it gets tricky.  “Our job is sad.”, is not a fact; however, “Pets die.”, is a fact.  We cannot totally prevent death in our patients - it is beyond our control.  We choose to feel sad when pets die and we also want that feeling.  We want to have compassion and empathy for our clients. Our job is to try to prolong healthy life, which is what we strive to do every day.  We cure and prevent disease by giving our patients excellent care and we feel great about that.  The fact that there is death with every life is not something that we can avoid.  Accepting this fact and learning to embrace the sadness  (not live there), helps keep our stress in check.   The heavy prolonged stress comes from our thinking that we should never have to feel anything negative. 

How do we embrace sadness and stress while caring for our mental, physical, and emotional health?

Feel your feelings fully and process through them.  Remain in the moment and do not try to squash bad feelings down or pretend that they are not there.   Don’t fear your stress or negative emotions.  It is a normal part of life and needs to be experienced in order for you to know when positive things happen.  The low points make the high points feel sweeter.

Take care of your mind, body, and spirit.  Practicing self-care in healthy ways is the most important thing you can do for stress management.  Exercise, yoga, meditation, or nature walks will open up your mind to better possibilities.  If you are feeling very stuck in negativity talk to a friend, coach, or therapist to help you see where you need help.  There is nothing shameful about negative thoughts and feelings.  Everyone has them and the sooner you embrace and manage your own, the sooner you will start to feel better.

Practice mindfulness and examine your thoughts.  When you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed write it all down. Getting the negative thoughts out of your brain and on paper will help you objectively examine them.  Once you see where your thinking is going you can adjust some of your thoughts to more positive alternatives.  If you can choose better thoughts your feelings will improve. Realize that you are perfectly designed to help your clients and patients with their veterinary problems - trained and fully equipped to succeed in this career.   

Sad things do happen but if we understand ourselves, support each other, and embrace the power of our brain, we can move beyond stress and get back to saving pet lives and enjoying our veterinary career.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.”  - Viktor E. Frankl


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