Most veterinarians have perfectionist tendencies. Our profession encourages it because we need to adhere to high standards, but since perfection is impossible, our desire to be perfect may cause anxiety and lead to depression.
Clinical psychologist Simon Sherry and lecturer Martin M. Smith define perfectionism as “striving for flawlessness, a state which renders an individual sensitive to criticism and plagued by self-doubt when estimating their performance abilities.”
In their 2019 study, they found perfectionism has increased substantially since 1990. They suggest that this phenomenon may be fueled by everything from parents who are critical and controlling to boastful social media postings reflecting unrealistic images of other people living perfect lives.
How can we let go of perfectionism while still working to be the best we can be?
Remember that you are talented and unique; there is a difference between achievement and perfection. It took many years of hard work and dedication to get to where you are today. Remember that the clients appear in your exam room because they trust and respect you. They pay you for your education, discernment, and expert opinion, not perfection.
Realize that veterinarians, like all other humans, are not perfect. You can strive for excellence while knowing that the goal of perfection is impossible. You can accept imperfections or small failures as part of your learning process. Accepting that failure is part of the human experience may relieve some of the pressure you place on yourself.
Recognize your successes, focus on the positive, and celebrate your accomplishments. Keep a success journal. Read it every time you start to feel self-doubt in the face of imperfection. Hold on to the thank-you notes and cards your clients send you. Your clients know that you do everything in your power to help them, and they acknowledge it. Read a few of them the next time you feel anxiety or self-doubt creep in.
Set reasonable and achievable goals. Not to lower your pursuit of excellence but give yourself a break and reward yourself for your achievements.
Confide in a mentor, coach, or therapist who understands why you are struggling. Seek help when you feel that the self-doubt is keeping you from being the best you can be. By understanding that everyone in this profession struggles with perfectionism, you will recognize that you are not alone and will be able to quickly accept your feelings when they arise.
Love yourself, warts and all.
Dr. Julie Cappel
“The pursuit of perfection is frustrating and a waste of time because nothing is ever perfect. The pursuit of excellence is commendable and worthwhile. Therefore strive for excellence, not perfection.” - Alan Kulwicki.
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