The sun will come out tomorrow.

Today is a beautiful sunny day. We are quarantined and cannot really go anywhere except for maybe a walk in the neighborhood or outside to do yard work.  I had some groceries delivered today, which I had done a few times before this all started, but now it is the only way I shop. 

Working, shopping, entertainment, and socializing has changed dramatically. This in our new normal, but it does not feel very normal.  There are so many unknowns.

How do we remain mentally strong when we do not know what our future holds?

Accept reality.  There is no use arguing with reality when something bad happens. Wondering why and arguing with facts is generally a waste of time. The sooner you can choose to accept things as they are, the sooner you can begin to deal with the reality of the current situation.  Our thinking creates our feelings, so accepting things is the first step to dealing with any anxiety or worry that the crisis brings.

Take some time to experience your emotions.  Negative emotions will come in waves during and after a crisis.  If you do not fear your emotions and choose to accept them, you will experience sadness, fear, or anxiety for a short time and then allow them to pass.  Choosing to feel all of your emotions will help you process them in a healthier way. 

Choose a positive mantra to keep with you.  Find a quote, bible verse, or saying that speaks to you.  Keeping positive messaging handy when your mind wants to go negative will allow you to replace the thoughts with more positive messages. 

Help yourself and help others.  Self-care is very important during difficulties.  Practice mindfulness, exercise and sleep well.  Reach out to your friends and relatives to not only get support but give support.  Helping others will help keep you from focusing too much on your worries.  Reaching out and offering assistance to another person in need will allow you to feel more powerful.

Create grace for yourself by feeling your emotions, supporting yourself, and caring for others.  Together we will become stronger and the sun will come out tomorrow.

Dr. Julie Cappel

“The ability to continue moving when you are feeling scared, fearful or lazy is the sign of true mental strength.” ― Matthew Donnelly